3 Tips to a Thriving Marriage
Throughout the month of May (and today!) we’re going to be delving into how to make your marriage better. Doesn’t every married person want just a little bit better marriage? Maybe making your marriage better means a complete 180 degree turn for you. Maybe that simply means a few new tricks and tips that you pick up to keep it strong. Each week (5 total weeks) there will be 3 tips each week. That’s 15 tips and tricks for those of us less skilled in math. And if I do say so myself: they’re pretty good tips whether you’ve been married 80 years of 8 days.
#1. NO PUBLIC SHAMING!
Remember the last time you were out with friends or just randomly at the grocery store and a couple starts fighting and bickering. It is literally the most uncomfortable thing in the entire world. Where do you look, what do you do, do you just walk away? It’s so weird! Matt is really good at only saying positive, nice things about me in public. He praises my intelligence and resourcefulness. It takes effort and it takes practice. It’s really easy to point out flaws and bring up old things, but do that on your own time. Your brain believes what you tell it. If you tell it (by telling all your friends) how great your spouse is, it will believe it. You don’t need to lie or embellish the truth, but make it a point to only say positive things!
#2. CHOOSE YOUR FIGHTS
Could I be anymore cliche? I know, I know. If you didn’t get this advice at your bridal shower, are you really married? It’s taken us 5 years, but I feel like we’re finally getting the hang of this. If it’s not important in 5 years, it shouldn’t be important in this moment. Do the socks on the floor require a 30 minute argument where you both storm off and don’t speak for 3 days or maybe a sticky note saying how much you love them and how much you appreciate it socks going in the laundry basket. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar
#3. TOUCH A LOT
My second top love language is physical touch. Contrary to what many believe, physical touch does not mean sex 24/7. I feel most loved when #myforeverpagel is using words of affirmation. I feel next most loved when he is holding my hand, when he has his hand on my leg while driving, when he puts his arm around me when we’re sitting beside each other. Y’all I’m all about that touch. There’s a lot of really interesting science behind how touch affects all of us mentally. We need and crave touch in our lives.
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