When was the last time you and your spouse had some R&R time? No, sleeping beside each other for 6 hours a night doesn’t count. Like really set aside some real rest and relaxation time. I’m not talking going on vacation. I’m talking in your own house even while the laundry isn’t folded and the dishes are still dirty?
Sitting down and relaxing doesn’t happen much with My Forever, just like I presume it doesn’t happen very much with your spouse. We are all so busy with everything that even if you do sit down, you immediately feel guilty.
This week, I’m giving your permission. Do you remember Lierz’ Philosophy of Life from Wild Wednesdays in August? His goal in life is to be lazy. Yep, you read that correctly. He wants to be lazy. He wants to farm, but have the fence line feed bunks that he can just drive his new tractor and feeder down along beside to look at his cows, etc. Sounds like a life goal that I can adopt.
Even, and maybe especially, when we’re in the middle of the craziness of life and it doesn’t seem like it’s ever going to be done, that my dear, is exactly when you need to pay attention to your spouse.
Being farmers, the reality is there is always something to be done. ALWAYS. We could literally work every single second of every single day and still not get everything done. Choices have to be made. Life isn’t about working all the time. It’s about the moments you have and get to make. Sometimes those moments are made working side by side with Matt. Sometimes those moments are made sitting side by side. As we come off a holiday week last week and start into full weeks again, my hope for you and your spouse is that you take some time to simply be together. Sit by each other and watch the sunrise or sunset. Forget the dishes or laundry for just a little bit and just tune into your spouse.
If you don’t want to end up roommates with your spouse, you have to do the little things that most aren’t doing. Marriage is work and sometimes that work means simply sitting and being with your Forever.