3 steps to a strong marriage
The next month is going to be filled to capacity with food, party, gifts and stress. So much stress. So many things to do and keep up with.
The first thing that is normally neglected is our marriages. This holiday season I strongly encourage you to focus on the things that matter and forget the things that don’t. Don’t wait until the start of the new year to focus on the important things in your life.
Here are 3 steps to keep your marriage strong through the holiday season:
- Talk about expectations! Know how much alone time your spouse needs to recharge after all the gatherings. It’s important to know yourself and share that with your spouse. Know if you are the type of person that thrives on people and doesn’t need any recovery time or you’re the type of person that needs some time alone to recharge after meetings. Start talking about this now! Don’t wait until you’re depleted and grouchy to discuss.
- Schedule! Get together now and go through your schedule. Before you have your meeting, make a list of everything that must be done and all events to attend. Then meet with your spouse and kids and decide what are non-negotiable. What are the events and to-do items that MUST be done. Decide what aren’t quite as important and let them go. Make sure the events are on everybody’s calendar from the beginning. From there you can do weekly check-ins and make sure everybody is still on board with everything. It’s okay to not attend every single event. It’s okay.
- Start your own private tradition! This is my favorite. Make something special that you and your spouse can look forward to. How much stress would be relieved if you knew something special was coming. It doesn’t have to be a big deal. Just something simple. During this season you don’t need something else to stress you out. You need something to take the stress away. Make it a yearly tradition. Some ideas: a specific movie you watch cuddled up with your spouse on a specific night each year, buy a new ornament together, bake together, exchange a book or buy the other a new sexy outfit to enjoy on Christmas night or New Years Eve.
What do you do during this time of year to ensure that your marriage stays on track and doesn’t get pushed to the back burner?
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~Matt & Kelsey