When you go to sleep at night, are you smiling or frowning? Are you going over your day, wishing you could get it back? Do things over again? Are you wishing you could have changed things?
I’m pretty damn confident about the person that I am. When I lay my head down on my pillow, I don’t question hardly anything I did in the day and I’m pretty happy with my life!
Now, that’s not saying I’m perfect. I’m simply saying I’m pretty okay with myself. I snap at My Forever at least twice every day with unnecessary remarks or attitude. Our house is never company ready (and we don’t even have kids, so what’s my excuse?!) I organize and then can’t find anything (please tell me I’m not the only one that does this). I start things and then give up or stop them.
Listen to me when I say this…perfection is not what I’m after! Happiness is what I’m after. I make my own happiness. I do not rely on anyone else for it. For me, when I lay down and my brain goes through the events of the day, there is rarely times that I regret. Given the chance, I might tweak some things, of course. It’s a successful day when I can smile about the day that I’ve just lived. My very underpaid life coach, Paul Lierz (he was my FFA advisor in high school), always says you get one chance at this game of life. We get one chance to live each day! We do not get any day back.
If you’re going to bed frowning, upset and thinking about the 9 billion things you didn’t get done today, I have two things for you. First, ask yourself why. Why are you upset? What about your day didn’t you enjoy? Then take out your notebook and pen and write it down. With those two steps you have actually thought about why you’re mad, wrote it on paper and cleared your brain of that space. It now can focus on something else. If your job is too stressful, what can you do to take you to your dream job? If you’re mad because you snapped at your husband through the day, be creative about waking him up to make it up to him. (Seriously, by the point you’ve got to going over your day-he’s fast asleep. You will get a lot of stored up brownie points. He’ll be much happier the next day. Plus, you’ll both feel and sleep better!) Are you worried about your to do list-the kids birthday parties, the schedule, the bills, etc. Put it on paper! Our brains are so overworked! Give them a break and put it on paper, clearing that brain space. Then because it’s on paper, sleep! Sleep is SO important to our mental health and so many people think it can be pushed aside.
The next day find some time to go over your list and make a plan! Life will happen to you if you don’t make your life happen.
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~Matt & Kelsey