This past week Matt and I went on vacation! Vacations are sweet chunks of time to get you through everyday life. Have you been on a vacation this year? Planning one before the kids go back to school? My hope is that you do find the time to get away and enjoy.
Vacations, for us, are a struggle and fight until we’re 3-4 hours away from home. Vacations are work! We’re thankful and blessed to work with his family so we can share the responsibility. When Henry and Margaret are gone, they know we’re going to do chores and take care of the farm. When we leave, we know they will. Matt loves what he is doing! It’s really hard to get him away. Once we’re away, we love it.
I thought I would do a recap of what we learned while on vacation from a marriage point of view.
- Matt is a terrible navigator and doesn’t like to drive. I am prepared and expect this now. I am convinced Matt is hypnotized. He can fall asleep with the snap of fingers. He likes to look around and sleep when we’re in the car. That leaves me to both drive and navigate which works fine until it doesn’t. He did drive (and it’s proven on the time stamps on receipts between getting gas and lunch) for a grand total of 1 hour and 29 minutes. I’m slowly learning to roll with the flow and not be too upset when we turn wrong.
- We both really like to do absolutely nothing on vacation. We pick a spot that is secluded and private and just be. This drives so many people crazy! Not us! We love simply being alone, not doing anything. So much of our life is busy and running and doing all the things. Not on vacation. We find a spot with a hot tub, that’s beautiful and just sit. We watch movies, we cook our own food and we spend a whole lot of time doing nothing.
- Matt’s intake of food is directly related to his outflow of energy. When we’re home and working, he will eat 3 cheeseburgers in one sitting and be hungry in just a few hours. When we’re on vacation, he can eat nothing or everything. I eat the same times and about the same amounts every day, whether working or not. He eats far less than I do on vacation because he’s not expending much energy. Who does that?!?
- We watch movies. A huge waste of time for some people, but we both really enjoy snuggling, grabbing some popcorn and watching a funny movie that makes us laugh. We watch hours of tv on vacation and we love it.
- It’s a fight to get Matt on vacation every year. For 5 days and 4 nights, I have to fight with him every. single. year. That’s the only time he leaves the farm. The only time he’s willing to sit in a hot tub and relax. The only time he’s willing to watch movies all day long. And I treasure every single second.
We’ve found what works for us. Should we go visit family we don’t get to see, except when they come back to Kansas. Yes. However, 5 days. That’s how often I get Matt to myself for 365 days. The rest of those 360, he loves me yes, but he’s not like he is for 5 days. And I’m selfish and want that to myself. Friends, you do not have to apologize for what works for you and your spouse. I’m going to be incredibly selfish, for the sake of our marriage, and enjoy every last second of these 5 days with him. Whatever your escape from real life is, may you cherish it and not ruin it by creating unnecessary fights.
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