7 Year Marriage Itch

There’s a lot of you that show up every week and read the #marriagemondaytpstyle post. For that I’m grateful. I’m humbled that you take time out of your life to support us. While I would love to say that I have marriage figured out, our marriage is great and all things are rainbow and sunshine, I simply can’t.

Year 6 of our marriage was the hardest so far. As we start on year 7, I would be lying to you if I didn’t say I wasn’t nervous. Year 7 is scientifically the hardest year of marriage. I’m confident that we’ll make it to year 8. I’m not confident that we’ll be happy then.

Can I be honest with you? Marriage is hard. Marriage to My Forever is hard. I’m an open book friends. I have given Matt a one page list of what I need on a daily, weekly and monthly basis. Literally wrote out in black and white. No guessing, no wondering. Simply follow the list to a happy wife. We’re not talking huge chunks of time commitment on this list either. It’s the little things like putting dishes in the dishwasher, socks in the laundry basket, initiating sex, and kissing me and telling me he loves me morning and night, etc.

When he doesn’t do these things on a regular and continuous basis after I ask him to, it feels like he doesn’t care. I’m a rational enough human being that I understand stress and busy-ness. I understand that everything on the list doesn’t get accomplished every single time. I get it. However, they need to happen on a regular basis, otherwise I get upset.

To him, this list is a suggestion. An idea of what to do to get brownie points. To me, this list is the fuel that fills my love tank. It’s the things that make me ignore the fact that he called me stupid while unloading a fuel tank incorrectly. It’s the things that get me through another date-less week. It’s the things that propel me through the long days.

Friends, I’m coming to you this week and asking you for advice. I’m asking what we can do to not just make it to year 8 and on, but how we can thrive. What techniques have you found to fight effectively? What tips do you use to make your marriage strong? Give us all the answers. Let us copy off your test. Teach us the steps to be even happier in our marriage than we are. Tell me there are happy couples out there. Tell me all couples aren’t just enduring and dealing, but thriving and thrilled. I’m asking for all the advice. What do you have for us?!

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