Making Your Marriage Better: Part 5

The final week of 3 tips to make your marriage exceptional:

Throughout the month of May on #marriagemondaytpstyle, we’ve been giving 3 tips per week to a great marriage. Marriage is hard work and we need to fill our tool bags with useful habits that can make it a little easier.

This last week of tips are some of my favorite. They are ones that I don’t have to work so hard at.

#1: Quality Time

Who has a stack of dishes in their sink, dishwasher full of clean dishes that haven’t been put away, 432 stacks of laundry to be washed, dried, folded or put away? Who has dirt on their floors, bathrooms that haven’t been scrubbed or a desk that is overflowing with paperwork that needs done? Please don’t say I’m the only one!

This tasks are terrible to me. Should anyone ever want to torture me, just have me do these things. It’s easy for me to set them aside to spend quality time with Matt. They don’t bother me until they get really bad. Especially this time of year with the long days and growing season for most of our crops, we work really long days. Rainy days are a blessing both to our crops and also to me. They signal a day of “me” time. They signal a chance for me to accomplish things on my list. I encourage you to forget about all the to do list items and spend a little time snuggling with your partner. Those chores will always be there. Don’t neglect the person you love, because you have to get those things done right now. Guarantee the quality time is WAY more important than making sure your house is spotless.

#2: Remember your memories

The other day I was deleting voicemails off my iPhone. On a side tangent, why do the messages that are deleted come back? It’s so frustrating, I can’t get them to delete permanently! Anyway, I thought I had it figured out. I have 4 saved voicemails that have transferred to about 4 phones with me. Two are from my sister and two are from Matt. I don’t listen to these messages very often (like maybe once a year), but when I do they melt my heart.

Matt never leaves me voicemails anymore. If I don’t answer, he simply texts me to tell me what he wants. The two that are saved are from when we were dating. One was simply to tell me good night and that he missed me. The other was after a fight we had. Y’all those are the most precious to me.

It’s so easy to forget those dating memories or early marriage memories. It’s easy to get caught up in everything he’s doing wrong and how many socks you find around the house. Take the time to remanence. You love this person with all your heart. Go back and visit those precious days of first getting to know each other.

Don’t throw these days in their face in the middle of a fight. “You used to leave me sweet voicemails, but you NEVER do that anymore”. Don’t do that. Those are fond memories that started your happily ever after. Give them justice. Don’t forget them. Write them down. Remember your beginning.

#3: Take and Make Requests Seriously

Matt and I work together. He makes requests of me all day long every single day. Often we abuse our partners. We hurt the ones we love the most. We request things be done all the time. We get mad when they aren’t completed.

Make your requests serious. Don’t ask them to help you with every little thing that can be done yourself. Make requests that you need done to be a better person. Take the requests that you get asked seriously. Don’t blow them off because you don’t want to do them. Your spouse is your partner in life. If you asked your business partner for something and they blew you off, you’d be upset. Don’t blow your partner off. They love you and need your help.

Make and take requests very seriously. Your partner is asking for help. Help them.

As we wrap up this series of quick tips to making marriage better, what was your favorite tip? What did you take away? What are some tips that weren’t listed that are beneficial in your marriage?

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